A Call On Advice, A Pre-Post(Rant)uh: on Authority Figures abusing Power (and students)

Hi guys!

This is a very very quick update so that I can start researching and then post that on here.

So today started a bit down, and then went brilliant- I am still bubbling with happiness deep (DEEP) down inside, but it’s all shielded off- because I’m cross. No, I am angry. But in a go get ’em, let’s FIX this sort of way.

Why?

The level of abuse- because it has accumulated and become this- in my brothers school, is disgusting. I can say that the teachers there? Save maybe one, are scum. Including the headmistress. The methodology of the staff, academics (or lack thereof) and attitudes and treatments is…despicable. Like, I think it has gotten to the point where everyone should be sacked.

Everyone. Sacked, fired, replaced- you name it. It’s not like there’s a lack of new educators in the field here in the UK or anything.

It is that bad. Maybe I should clarify a few things- this ‘school’ I speak of, is not a mainstream or private school, it is a specialist school. For Special Needs. Anyone who has children or family members knows how hard it can be to find a place that is supposed to accommodate the children and help them learnkey skills (that they as staff were taught at Uni or College) and techniques as a side to their education to eventually cope in the world and everyday life.

It is supposed to be safe. The staff are- I dont even know where to begin. It’s like (as I spoke to a friend -a mother of a child who goes/went there) the staff all went someplace and caught stupid. They are malicious, negligent, scheming, negative, abusive, miscommunicating-on-purpose, inappropriate, danger-provoking, blasphemous, prejudiced bags of scum. I am going to do my best to make a case to take them down (and no, we are not keeping my little brother in that school- but by God, those people are not going to get away with staying as they are- and I know there’s an option where all the children if their parents think it’s so bad, can just move away- but think: some parents dont know, some dont care, some are desperate and or poor -e.g. have children who are ‘low functioning’ or have low self-esteem: think conformity, giving in to authority figures -I will post some psychology stuff up on that, by the way it’s A2 material. So it would worse case of this, have all the informed parents with higher functioning kids, pulling out their children this time, the school abomination still standing, leaving the lower funct kids at the now incensed already borderline midground abusive staff AND the new batch of kids would still be coming in to find out for themselves. Or that kid who brings in a knife will actually manage to stab someone this time. ).

God, help these children. I think some detective work is in order- and a case file to be built.

So, my last post was about Law and whether I would have the will to do it? It looks like I’ve got a case to build. Wow. Before even going to university!

I am researching and ofsted will get some letters (but one point here- the school didnt inform parents ofsted was coming so that the ones with time -or who made time because it is so bad-

Worse comes to worse? I think I’ll go to the papers.

Sad thing is my exams start next month…so…it’s going to be tough.

So, any thoughts on where to start on this?

How Can I Get Comfortable With Who I Am?

tenshii7:

This is going into the feel-good advice section on my blog.

..Oh? I don’t have one? Well I will have to make one.

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

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Hi Laura, 

I’m Courtney, from Australia but not born here. I wanted to sort of ask you how you’re so comfortable with yourself and your decisions? I’m the complete opposite. I question myself with everything I do, (I’m a teenager so I understand it comes with the territory) and it gives me really low self-esteem. 

I’ve never really thought of myself as having a story, even though I’m a massive fan of books and music, and they are both full of stories.

Sorry, I’m sure you get a lot of stuff like this, I’m just curious :)

Thank you :)

Xo

***

Courtney,

Listen to me when I say: you, darling, incredible, open, truth-seeking warrior, are fucking awesome. Every single thing you do, every single day: that is your story. Your story is who you say hello to on the way to the school bus…

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The Host of Lesson Quotes Post: Liking the quotes- some good advice..

http://www.buzzfeed.com/jarrylee/books-will-always-be-there-for-you#.gdLN40VWN

A bit of fun and a good read for the anxious mind (mildly anxious, mind you).

…There are some really good quotes on here, ohmygoshness.

(Shall I post them here, edited already so you only have to see this post- and the link as a reference…? Mayhaps!)

The Host of Lesson Quotes Post, Below

(is from ‘BUZZFEED’ and collected by Jarry Lee -Not mine people. Just sharing!) 

2. From Exit to Eden by Anne Rice:
“Like what you like, love who you love, and understand that being different doesn’t make you undeserving or incapable of love.”
Suggested by Krysti L. S., via Facebook

3. From Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut:
“Accept that things happen. It may not be for a reason, and you may have no control over it, but the first step to getting through it is accepting what it is.”
Suggested by askfix1994

4. From Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen and Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë:
“Don’t be scared because you don’t have all the answers right away. You will learn through your experiences and find your own way to happiness. Don’t rely on others to tell you how to be happy or what makes a good life. It’s up to you to follow your heart and find happiness from there.”
Suggested by Caitlin R., via Facebook

5. From the A Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket:
“Being lonely is OK, and not everyone has to like you. You can’t always rely on people.”
Suggested by didelwo97

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7. From The Giver by Lois Lowry:
“Even though change and strife can be terrifying, the beauty of choice and love always outweighs the pain.”
Suggested by Hannah S., via Facebook

8. From The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas:
“It’s never too late to turn your life in a completely new direction, and there is huge importance in just one day.”
Suggested by thesmallone

9. From The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde:
“Let go of your past, but don’t pretend that it never happened.”
Suggested by mlmlml3

10. From The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen:
“Accept things as they are. Life isn’t about living in the past or living for the future. It’s about living in the now.”
Suggested by meganelisew2

11. From The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien:
“Never deny yourself an experience just because it’s unknown or uncomfortable — it may just be a defining and wonderful part of your life.”
Suggested by patrickdavidconstantineh

13. From The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald:
“Changing yourself into someone that is completely different from who you are doesn’t lead to anything good. If someone loves you then they should love everything about you, including flaws. Love is about so much more than the superficial things. Be and love yourself.”
Suggested by Allison L., via Facebook

14. From Number the Stars by Lois Lowry:
“Good people can make a difference and help to alleviate profound suffering just with simple acts of compassion.”
Suggested by Larissa C., via Facebook

15. From the Divergent trilogy by Veronica Roth and the Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins:
“You have to fight for what you believe in. Even if you’re the underdog, keep fighting and you can conquer.”
Suggested by arcoops

16. From The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien:
“Even small creatures can change the world’s destiny.”
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17. From The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson:
“Heroes come in all shapes and sizes, even those who don’t consider themselves heroes.”
Suggested by KT W., via Facebook

This is true- personally, find this resonates with me.

This is true- personally, find this resonates with me.

19. From Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud Montgomery:
“There is magic and beauty in this world everywhere you look — just as long as you look for it. Never lose the whimsical notions that come so easily to us as children, yet flee once we age. Stay positive, fight for your friendships and never be afraid to try on different personae — you might find one you like.”
Suggested by kaitlinw48e1a1710

20. From the His Dark Materials trilogy by Philip Pullman:
“Life is brutal and will break your heart, and you just have to be brave and do the best you can.”
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21. From The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank:
“Having a strong imagination in your darkest hour can bring out hidden strengths you never thought you had.”
Suggested by colleend9

22. From Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë:
“Listen to your conscience and do the right thing, no matter the cost. You can’t put a price on self-respect. Follow your heart. Things may not always work out the way you’d like, but if you live according to your principles, they will work out.”
Suggested by Lynn M., via Facebook

23. From Looking For Alaska by John Green:
“There is something special about you that cannot be physically measured or duplicated.”
Suggested by baileyl4d00857da

(Got shivers on my arms- and those goosebumps)

These are called ‘Bleeding Hearts’.

All off of Google; may have gone a little too far..

All off of Google; may have gone a little too far..

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25. From Watership Down by Richard Adams:
“Bravery isn’t always lack of fear; sometimes it’s a culmination of small risks you take every day just to survive. To live is to be courageous, to believe in yourself is bold. Your willingness to confront danger despite your fears in a world that seems to be forever against you is all that matters.”
Suggested by carolinev6

26. From the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling:
“With love, friendship, and family (whether they’re still with us, or not), we can get through anything.”
Suggested by Tatiana H., via Facebook

27. From City of Thieves by David Benioff:
“The best people — the ones who change your life — might not be around for as long as you’d like. Appreciate those people and cherish the moments you have together.”
Suggested by rawpups

28. From Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom:
“It’s important to learn as much as you can from those you respect most. It’s those people who will help shape you into the person you want to be.”
Suggested by jessical44f9fda63

29. From the Hunger Games trilogy by Suzanne Collins:
“Family is always the most important thing.”
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31. From The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger and A Separate Peace by John Knowles:
“Society always tells us that we must be perfect or that we must fit into this mold to be important, but the characters in these books taught me that being imperfect and making mistakes is so much more important and by continuously trying to fit into this perfect version of ourselves, we will only hurt ourselves.”
Suggested by faithy6731

32. From The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald:
“You can’t change the past, and what’s been lost in the past cannot be regained. You can’t dwell on what’s happened in the past because it will destroy you.”
Suggested by latulacolborn

33. From the Maze Runner trilogy by James Dashner:
“Be loyal to those you believe in and never stop fighting until the end.”
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34. From The Fault in Our Stars by John Green:
“Live your life to the fullest and appreciate the world you live in because you can never know when it will be taken away from you.”
Suggested by luvziggler2

35. From Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom:
“Your love leaves a legacy; your love continues on even after you die, so in a sense you’re never truly dead if you live a life full of love.”

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(obviously. Just reiterating! And I got bored- so this is different)

(obviously. Just reiterating! And I got bored- so this is different)

37. From To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee:
“Reputations are not always true and things aren’t necessarily what they might seem.”
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38. From the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling:
“Love is a powerful force to be reckoned with. Love lives on even after people we care for are gone and it compels us to do things that are hard. Love is found from many different people, whether it’s family, friends, mentors, etc. and sometimes can be found from the people you’d least expect.”
Suggested by Annie B., via Facebook

39. From Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë:
“Love not in spite of, but BECAUSE of flaws (which applies both to loving yourself and others).”
Suggested by Samantha P., via Facebook

40. From One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez:
“The spectrum that love, sex, and desire fall on is as infinite as the spectrum between reality and magic.”
Suggested by annat4b236c360

41. From The Book Thief by Markus Zusak:
“Words are valuable and insanely powerful. Words can be used for both good and evil and they should never be used lightly.”
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I Used To Think I Was A Real-Life Hero. Now, I Am Afraid Of What I Am Becoming.

tenshii7:

Oh my gosh- ANOTHER GOOD POST TO READ, PEOPLE. Same thematics as before present!

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

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There is a question that every teenager is faced with, but no one can answer. Most grow out of trying, but I never did. No matter how old I get, how many responsibilities occupy me, nor how inconsequential the answer may be, I find myself constantly faced with the question: Who am I?

What began as a snowflake of doubt has suddenly collapsed into an avalanche of guilt, and regret. And fear. Yet there is no one I am more afraid of than myself, because I cannot tell whether I am ill, or divine. There is only room for one being to claim ownership of everything: Me or God. This seemed like a novel little idea to me when I was eighteen, but over the course of the last five years it has come to dominate everything that I am.

I used to think that I…

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Reblog: The call to your own true adventure

Hi.

So, I put this in ‘explanatory’ and for once, it’s something someone else has posted because -well, have a read for yourself..

The call to your own true adventure.

This is beautiful – Beautifully put, but also because it really hits the hammer on the head for my own situation crossroads.

So I’m reblogging this because I think it genuinely is something good to read and think about- this is what we are spending the rest of our lives (or a significant portion of it) doing. At least for me, it is.

It struck a cord within me, did it with you?

Feeling fired up inside and resolute,

Nami

Signing out!

Sunday Life Problem Post

Hi,

So there are lots of nice, good things going on atm that I am grateful for, but there are also some pretty bad doubts and worries that are long-term atm, so I need to vent them!

-Law Career, to do or not? (As long as I figure this one out I will be OK with going to university now, or later- whenever. Or doing an apprenticeship. Law or What?)

-Universities and courses(Which university? and apparently I don’t have to do LAW to get into law, could I do something else?)

-Bursary (Because the biology coursework was expensive)

Okay. So, my fixes.

1. Visits, work exp, volunteering (worry is I wont study enough around that, but I will backwards calender it all tomorrow after connexions so should be OK). See if I really like the job still. And speak to people in and going into the proffession: Nee, and Nev.

Immediate Steps- Law Court Visit this week and arrange work exp at a legal dept and call Nev about uni(what do they teach? what’s it like really? What do you think of an apprenticeship? The History-then law route?).

2. Which uni? Go and see and ask questions. Which Course? Talk to someone about how they chose- Stph, Ama, Sarah(jobs) and Ursula and at the temple. (Sha how did you figure out how much to study each day so that you’d covered everything?)

Immediate Steps: University Dates, Tester Dates and where (write a list, then speak to dad before booking anything. Also call them and ask) so can visit. Speak to UCAS about other unis not on options- how would I go with one not an option (clearing?)

Visit Stph and Sarah and Ama. Caro’s Carli’s sheet. Careers tests and Connexions speak about.

3. Print off convo and bring to connexions. Request extra help: you need it, was told can do this and be refferred if with a school but as not, she couldnt refer me..

Peoples

-Nee

-Nev

-Stph, Ama and Sarah

-Z’s Mum?

-Dad, talk with him? Dad why do you feel like you wish you got a higher education and went to university?

-Connexions Advice

I feel like sometimes I can do law and become a lawyer and achieve my goals and dream maybe- and then sometimes I remember some people I trust say they think I should do something else, and my recent ability to not cope with stress, and how very stressy law must be- at uni not even as a career which I feel I could handle better. But then I think of my socio-economic situation with my family and I’m like: but I need the money, and atleast I’d be a darn good lawyer who has morals and will stick by them and hopefully make a name for herself.

What are your thoughts? How did you get to where you are now or how do any young people you know choose their career?

5 Excellent Motivational Speeches To Keep You Moving Forward

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

1. Charlie Day Commencement Speech

You may know Charlie Day from the very popular FX series “It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia,” where he does things like eliminate rats and school unsuspecting fraternity types with his Good Will Hunting lingo. Earlier this year, Day addressed his alma mater, Merrimack College, in what can only be described as an extremely well done and powerful speech.

2. Tebow’s Promise

My college roommate and his family were huge Gator fans, and as per the law of annoying sports fan friends, I actively rooted against Tebow and the Gators during the Urban-Timmy era.

Alas, it’s impossible not to appreciate this — for what Tebow lacked in professional quarterback potential, he more than made up in with grit and fortitude. After making this now somewhat-legendary promise*, he proceeded to lead the Gators to a National Championship.

*needs about 5 more years become enter the nostalgia-induced…

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On Running Over People and Animals…and Dumping animals…and animal abuse

Hi

So, I think people who run over animals/people, and leave, should :

1. Have their car(s) taken away and sold,

2. Have their driving license revoked

3. Have that beautiful little asterisk * black-marking their records, next to their name… maybe a special colour-connotation should show what..?

and best case scenario, ALSO – 4. Jail time proper and get the people to GIVE BACK to the communities they are in somehow (not nearby; their own. Wearing those luminescent jackets too). Hey if a school can assign it’s sixth formers 150 hours for two years (and succeed and get more than that- 250, 400 hours) then these guys can tote the same.

…Because the problem is not getting better, and it has escalated to people now, too(proof in a later point made here, by the way). Do you know what current penalties are? Fines if the animal cruelty officers are lucky. And they take the animals away to maybe possibly help them (I am not over-exaggerating; their funds are on them and donations here. Examples being – have you watched RSPCA on the TV, ever? Note how they amputate limbs, all the time, because the bone is broken. No there isn’t a difference between ours and theirs.. But f I broke a bone, I’d wear a cast, right? Get pins maybe. They can’t do that so often, so they amputate…).

Ok. So Dumping animals is further proof that animal abuse charges- at least in the UK- are not enough. Because the number and blatancy is increasing.

Onto the main point: I think animal cruelty or abuse should be punished heavily.

Why?

Well. The thought that someone could mistreat something else, that is a) vulnerable and b) capable of emotions and suffering (because, yes, people, animals can feel- maybe not complex variants, but enough to cover the main stuff), and act completely ‘normal’ or  fine, is disgusting, and it highlights the fact that there is something seriously wrong with them.

They could be your neighbours. Your kid’s teacher, a friend. Anyone. That group of children running around, or that successful gal down the block. They associate with you and yours, is the point. And act fine.

By not giving them reason enough to NOT behave as such, we are enabling that sort of attitude, thinking and behaviour (and a small part of me just shuddered and muttered:’…and allow it to breed, oh gosh, ew…’ – anyone familiar with the nature vs. nurture argument? Both could happen. Just saying. Right here in this situation.). It means people are pushing boundaries doing crueler things: burning tied up puppies alive and watching, laughing (there’s a case where mid-range children did this), or throwing cats over high metal fences (the kind with the wiring on top, like in the army) and if they get caught, heck ‘yay’ for them. It’s funny.

I don’t know about you all, but I do not condone that kind of crap.

Then there’s the fact that a lot of serial killers start off with animals. They are ‘practise’, right? So…point it out, call it out to the right people, don’t turn a blind eye! If you’re wrong, you can appologise- and point out, hey, at least I care- and that it’s right to do something, and be wrong than not do something and be right. From a human standpoint, it’s dangerous not to report these scumbags. Oh, and about being wrong- it could be a case where the neglect was unintentional, or due to say some medicial reasons (and so they get help, or give them up…), too.

If none of that convinces you, think of it like this- it’s immoral. Do you want that kind of well, borderline evil around you? Even if you’re not home a lot, what if one of these guys is e.g. your boss, co-worker? Or the electrician or painter you let into your house? Another point: It probably costs a lot of money to the economy long-run when these people grow up/as grown ups cheat, steal and break things having no respect for law or property (and I mean that in both terms of meaning). That all loses money.

Hopefully I have outlined this viewpoint enough for people to re-think their own standpoint on animal cruelty, and it’s affects and effects on the urban world around us.

This is where I stand. Got any comments, questions? Ask away! Articles/Evidence to be added (on the desktop computer)!

CA, out!